There is a lot to like about social media: it's ability to connect people who are far apart, it's many features, the fact that I can see what my 4th-grade friend from Minnesota is up to and update friends and family on my life with just a few clicks of a button. I mean how else would I share my blog post then via Facebook?
But with all that there is to like, there's still a lot to dislike.
In social media, you can seek answers to questions you shouldn't be asking or should actually be asking in person. Cyber-stalking is very real. Online harassment has unfortunately become a thing, as well as fake accounts, trolls, and other weirdos You name it, social media probably has it.
Social media gives people the ability to create a persona different from their actual selves. It means having the power to create a life for yourself that you may not be living and convincing people that you are who you post you are.
We can easily hide behind our words, pictures and videos and project a persona that is very different from who you are. We can hide.
And we can also seek. Wanna know what your ex is up to? Wanna know if your high school friend is at home for the holidays? Wanna know what your date's favorite team is? Wanna know how many people liked your post? Who liked your post? Wanna know where your sister went out to eat? Social media is your answer.
More features are being added so more information can be shared. In an age, that prides an active online presence and those willing to get personal, is less still more?
Is there such a thing as too much information?
I've had friends who have given up social media altogether, going ghost for a month or more. No Facebook, deleted their Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat. Offline and off the grid. Call or text only.
I've wanted to do this many times before but then all the reasons to stay on social media have proven to be too strong: Facebook is a tough one for me considering that it's where my work schedule is posted and how I communicate with most of my co-workers. I mean how else will I share my blog posts? Or share my poetry?
I've never used Twitter and I doubt I ever will. I can't remember what my Tumblr is and Snapchat is reserved for time spent in waiting rooms.
But what if we all disconnected? Would we be happier?
Forced to interact tête-a-tête, call our parents and friends to ask what they've been up to and invite them to hang out. What if?
What if we just didn't post so that people would think we were doing fine and were happy and just worked on being happy and doing okay instead?
What if we didn't check our ex's Facebook pages two or three times a day and just let the wounds heal instead?
Hover over the logout option for a bit. Weigh your options. Consider what if? And think about how badly you may need to just disconnect and stop playing hide-and-seek.