Everything is right now.
Customers at work want their food right now. Professors want their assignments done right now. I want a full-time, paying job in my field right now. We want to be in relationships, have the perfect body, have a steady pay, own property, and love ourselves right now.
I see it in everyone, I see it in myself and I see it every day. Hurriedness.
The man checking his watch three, four, maybe five times in line at your city utilities office because he just doesn't have time to wait. The distressed look of a customer who is wondering why their coffee is taking so long because two minutes should be more than enough to make a cappuccino with soy milk, put it into a to-go cup, top it with foam, slip a sleeve on it and ring them up too.
Gone are the days of patience. I once spent a half hour explaining to my little sister why patience is very important and that getting mad about how long something takes, isn't worth it. She looked at me, bored and uninterested wondering why I was taking so long to explain this, as if she, at eight-years-old had more pressing matters to attend to.
"I don't have time."
An easy out and one that we've all used. But how many times is it actually true? Do you really not have the time, or are you just not willing to make the time?
How about taking the time to say "thank you," or "please?" What about stopping to let a mother and child cross the street? What about taking the time to unwind before running to the next event or class? What about taking time off? What about taking your time to finish college or get a job? What about stopping.
I am guilty of this. I don't stop and breathe, or stop and admire things. I bike fast, I talk fast, I walk fast and I eat fast. And I sometimes do so without thinking or even having anywhere I need to be. I'm not in a rush, I'm just rushing because I feel like if I slow down for even a second, life might catch me slipping and catch up on me.
Competition is real. Graduating college means you should have already had a job and plenty of experience in your field, it means not always having the time but making the time because there are people out there who made the time and they're on top.
Everything is quicker, sooner and harder. No one waits until junior year of high school to choose a college anymore, no one waits until you're ready for a job to give you one, no one waits for you. No one waits at all.
Maybe that why we are struggling to be happy. Good things take time? Remember that old saying? Rings true to me. All good things take time and things that take time require patience.
So maybe next time you're in a long line or you find yourself running somewhere, take a minute, breathe, admire your surroundings, remember that you're going to die one day and you might as well enjoy this moment, the time it takes to arise and appreciate the stillness, the quietness and the waiting.